All right, guys, thanks for coming out tonight to the office hours. Um, we've been talking about what your secret skills are that women love. Um, being a really good listener, dancing, uh being able to take someone out of a funk when they're in it, make them laugh. Um, all great skills that uh that come up. Uh and we want to be cultivating this as men. We want to be cultivating skills that we can bring to the table to offer the women that we're either involved with in relationships, or if we're dating, that we can slowly start to reveal to them over time. Because the topic for tonight is are you a man of many gifts? To be able to be attractive, to be able to um have your finances together, these are all great things. Uh, being able to be open and um emotionally intelligent and connect with somebody, these are these are really nice qualities, but they're sort of straight line uh with what a woman is expecting. You also want to be cultivating a certain amount of gifts inside of you that are waiting to be discovered. And these are things that women will slowly in time uh bring to the surface as they get to know you, and it's going to enhance their experience of you as a man as you're as you go through the dating process and on into relationships. So, this is a scene here for those of you that are just listening on the podcast and can't see it. Um, there's a man twirling a woman around in the streets somewhere in Europe. I don't know, AI generates the image, but they're beautiful. And the one of the one of my skills that I like to bring to the table is to be able to dance with a woman. I don't tell her that I dance, I don't tell her I took a little bit of salsa classes. If she asks, I won't hide it, but I don't offer these things up. I definitely don't boast. I keep it on the down low, I keep it sort of sort of hidden for a while because I know the opportunity is going to come up for these skills to come out. And I want to get mileage out of them. I want to get every every bit of enjoyment that I can in her experience with me. And I want them to be revealed like a surprise, which is really what a gift is. A gift is something of value that's in a box wrapped up with wrapping paper. You've got the bow tied up around it, it's very pretty, and she has no idea what's inside. That's how we should be packaging ourselves as men, and she should get to discover these gifts one after another after another through the dating process. So, how do we go about this? How do you make it so you have this sort of bag of gifts inside of you as a man for the woman to experience and enjoy? So the first thing is you have to actually cultivate and develop valuable skills, valuable traits, valuable interesting things. Um, another another surprise that a lot of women get to learn from me is that I speak other languages. I speak French fluently. Um, I speak a little bit of Mandarin Chinese, and I can get by at a taco truck in Spanish. And I don't tell women any of this up front. Even when I used to do online dating, I would not share all of these things on my online dating profile. These are precious items. These are hard won skills that I've that I've acquired over my lifetime. And they're usually have a very positive impact on people and particularly women when I get to know them. And I have had to make the effort to actually actually actually build and cultivate these valuable items wrapped inside of the gift box that is Dallas. So this the first step when you're trying to be a man of many gifts is you need to bury treasures inside of yourself for her to find. You need to be cultivating, you need to be doing work, you need to be generating the content that she is going to later discover. If we're not developing ourselves very much, if we're not going in interesting directions with our lives, if we're not learning and growing, there's very little inside for the woman to discover. We need to be learning and growing so that there are things for her to be curious about and for her to unwrap in time. So that's the first item. The second item: when you're a man of many gifts, you don't want to, the the old phrase is don't blow your wad too soon. You don't want to spend all that you have right up front. You don't want to tell her everything interesting there is to know about you in the beginning. You do want to give her glimpses, you want to give her hints. So you can mention, yeah, well, I lived in Europe for a little while. I'm not saying, yeah, well, I'm fluent in French. That's like jumping to the end of the story. If I mention that I lived in Europe and then she asks an intriguing question and I share a little more, and then that's it for the moment. And then maybe later in the conversation, maybe on the next date, that topic will come up again. And and in between those moments, she's going to be asking herself, so did I hear him right? Did he say he lived in Europe? Did I did I hear that he used to do this as a living, but now he's doing that? And all of that creates intrigue. And um, that intrigue is what is what is going to fuel things inside of her. That's what's going to that's what's going to start to cause what was a totally flat beginning to start to bubble up and become a fertile ground for a romantic connection, start to happen. So as you are developing your your gifts inside, you want to slowly share them with her. Because a slow release of these gifts creates anticipation. That's the second point you want to remember. You've done all this work to create these treasures inside of you. Now slowly release them so that she can savor them, so that you can create anticipation, so that she can wonder how deep does this go? How far do some of these gifts reach? These are all elements that you want to do to maximize the mileage that you can get out of the hard work that you've done developing yourself. So, second point is a slow release creates anticipation in the woman. And the thing that is probably the hardest to conceptualize is we think about ourselves as men as having strong traits. You know, we we try to be in shape, we try to dress well, we, you know, we want to be financially stable, we want to be funny, we want to be confident. We there's there's a long, long list of all these traits that we want to have. And on top of it, you want to have intriguing uh treasures and that are unique to you, that that are part of your story, that are that are something that she can be curious curious about and sink her pretty little teeth into. We want to do all of that, but the truth is all of these elements are simply reflections of the person at the heart of all of it. I'm one man that has done these things. And when it comes down to it, all of these gifts tie back into one man and one package that she's being involved with. That one man and that one package, that is ultimately the gift that she's after. And when a woman really falls for you, when she's really interested in you, she feels like you are a gift coming into her life. And that's where you go from dating to relationship, from relationship to engaged, and from engaged to to married and having kids, because that woman feels that you are a gift to her. And even once you get to that place, your work isn't done. I've said this many times before. As a man, the work is never done. You always want to be cultivating, you always want to be burying new treasures for her to find. You want to be, in a sense, the man that is the gift that she gets to keep unwrapping. That's the third point. Bring it all together into a singular point where all of these different aspects that you have of yourself that you're offering, these are all just reflections of you. And as she unwraps the various different gifts, really what it is is she's undressing you in multiple senses of the word. And she keeps unwrapping you, realizing there are layers upon layers upon layers of intrigue in this man, and that she is so lucky to be with him because he's never done providing more curiosities, more new things to discover. And you become this one singular gift that she's perpetually unwrapping over and over again. So to recrap real quick, are you a man of many gifts? These are the gifts that you're bringing to her. We're not talking about flowers and roses and candy and you know, all that, you know, tacky Valentine's Day stuff. That has its place, but we're talking about the gifts that you bring that are a reflection of who you are as a person. First one is you need to be burying treasures inside of yourself for her to find. Those treasures are things that you have to do, work, and cultivate inside of yourself. You need to genuinely be developing gems for her to discover inside of you. The second point is you've done all this work. You want to have a slow release of these gifts that creates anticipation for her. Women want to have an emotional experience. Women want to have a sort of twisted, dramatic experience. Women want, they love anticipation. Anticipation is foreplay for a woman emotionally and psychologically. Use the gifts that you have and slowly share them with her over time so that she can savor them as much as possible. And lastly, are you a man of many gifts? You are if you are being the gift that she keeps unwrapping. Even once you've been together, even once you're committed and you've been together a long time, keep burying treasures for her to come back to and to and to unwrap in the relationship as it moves forward. All right. So those are the three points. And now, in order to try to develop this, we have the weekly growth challenge. So, your weekly growth challenge to become a man of many gifts, we have to first become conscious of them. So, here are the instructions. You want to create a list of three to five skills or talents you've developed in yourself you feel women enjoy. Once you've written that list down, think about this over the next week. During your conversations this week, share glimpses of these talents to create intrigue and cause people to ask you to share more. So you're not sharing with with them the full end of the story and and just you know giving them the ending. You want to share with them a slight reveal. Um, I in in the worksheet that that I that I sent out this week, we were talking about if sort of like an extended strip tease, you're revealing a little bit here, you're revealing a little bit there, and you're creating intrigue and desire and anticipation. And you know that it's being effective because the people are asking you to share more. That's your weekly code challenge, guys. All right, we're gonna jump back into the uh the rest of the office hours and open up the discussion. Feel free to join the uh coaching, the coaching program to uh join in on the rest of the discussion. Talk to you later, guys.